Monday, October 5, 2009

Taking my life back

October is Domestic Violence Awareness month as well as Breast Cancer Awareness, My jewelry guild is graciously donating to the shelter that helped me when I first came to Iowa 16 years ago, DVIP, you can visit their site to find out about this great organization.

http://www.dvipiowa.org

I did take my life back, I will share a bit, I was married for 19 years to a text book physical and verbal abuser, in therapy I was told he was a sociopath, he was also a functioning alcoholic and drug user. I pretty much grabbed my kids and got as far away as I could on what money and transportation I had, wasn't far but far enough and yes, I had tried to leave many many times before. A lot happened over 19 years, enough to fill a book, I'm working on one at times and jewelry is my other therapy.

Domestic Violence is not an easy subject for anyone to talk about, it tends to be swept under the rug and brushed aside, ignored and hoped it will go away. It won't. If your in a relationship and are being abused it will escalate, if you have children, it will carry on, your daughters will continue in their relationships to be abused, your sons will become abusers, it is a vicious cycle that needs to be stopped and it can one home at a time. For information on what you can do to help or if you need help please seek help and get out, you can take your life back, you can be free, you are not crazy and he can kill you. There are many sites with tons of information. One of the best is www.domesticviolence.org

Please visit our Artfire Jewelry Designers/Supply Shops guild blog site and go shopping. AJDJSS. thanks for visiting.

http://www.ajdjssguildevents.blogspot.com/

Come check out the wonderful shops and items participating in this event, awesome jewelry artists and suppliers can be found. Thanks to all the shops that are participating in this event, it really warms my heart that we can do this, you have no idea, I feel I can give back all the help I was given. Thank you all.

Help us help.

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  2. It is so brave of you to talk about the difficulties you suffered as an abused wife.
    I admire your strength and your endurance.
    You happen to be a wonderful jewelry designer and a wonderful person. I said it before and I'm sayin it again--you are a "JOY" to know and have as a member of our guild.
    May you be blessed with happy memories today, tomorrow and beyond.

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  3. So sorry you had to go through this but I'm so happy you don't have to live under those darn (I would say the "D" other word but better not) circumstances! Good for you!

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  4. Thank you for sharing your story, your strength, your healing nature with us all. I am so glad you escaped and fled to a better please, an empowered place, a healing place - for you and your children *and* our collective future.

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